If your pet has died, you may wonder how you will ever recover from such heartbreak. Your pet was an integral part of your family and losing your furry pal leaves a significant emotional void. Healing is possible, but the grief process is different for everyone. The Pony Express Veterinary Hospital team offers meaningful ways to honor and memorialize your beloved pet as you navigate this difficult time.

Pet loss coping strategies

Losing someone you love, whether a person or a pet, elicits grief. The grief response can cause you to feel angry, sad, confused, guilty, and other emotions. Some days are good, while other days, you may want to shut out the world. These feelings are normal. To understand grief, consider the following:

  • Acknowledge your grief — Acknowledge that the grief you feel about losing your pet is legitimate. Allow yourself to feel the emotions that come with this loss.
  • Express your feelings — Talking about your feelings with friends, family, or a support group can be therapeutic. If you don’t wish to talk, writing in a journal about your pet and the times you shared can also help.
  • Maintain daily routines — Sticking to a routine, whether work, sleep, or mealtime, can provide a sense of normalcy and help distract you from the pain. Engage in activities that bring you joy and peace.
  • Seek professional grief support — If your grief feels overwhelming, seek a therapist’s or counselor’s help. Some professionals specialize in pet loss and can provide the support you need. 

Memorializing your pet

Memorializing your pet through art, stories, and happy recollections helps you remember them in a positive way. To honor your departed pet companion, follow these tips:

  • Create a memorial — A tangible reminder of your pet can be comforting. Memorial ideas include a framed photo, a scrapbook, or a piece of jewelry containing your pet’s ashes. Some pet owners find solace in creating a small garden or placing a memorial stone in their yard.
  • Hold a memorial ceremony — Invite some close friends and family for a farewell ceremony or ritual. A memorial can provide closure, and when you include others who knew and loved your pet, they can share memories that can lighten your spirit.
  • Donate or volunteer — Consider donating money and/or time in your pet’s honor to your favorite animal charity or shelter. Spending time with animals is a beautiful way to honor your pet while contributing through volunteerism.
  • Create art — Channel your emotions into painting, drawing, or writing. These are cathartic ways to process your grief and celebrate your pet’s life.
  • Make a memory box — Collect your pet’s belongings—collars, toys, and favorite blankets—and place them in a special keepsake box. This box can serve as a cherished memory collection to revisit when you need to feel close to your pet who has died.
  • Engage in activities you enjoyed with your pet — If you and your pet had favorite places or activities, revisiting them can be a way to feel connected to your furry pal. Whether you visit a park you frequented with your pet or a hiking trail you explored together, these special places can bring back fond memories.

Long-term pet loss healing

Remember that healing after your pet has died takes time and requires emotional support. Each pet leaves a unique imprint on their owner’s life, and finding ways to honor that bond promotes healing. While the pain of losing your pet may never disappear, with time and support, the grief becomes bearable, allowing your cherished memories to bring you comfort, joy, and sometimes laughter rather than sorrow.

After losing a pet, everyday life may be challenging, but embracing your grief, seeking support, and finding meaningful ways to remember your beloved companion can help you navigate this difficult time. Your four-legged friend may not be with you physically, but their memory continues to bring warmth and love into your life. Contact The Pony Express Veterinary Hospital team for additional pet loss support and guidance.